Dressember Review, Week 2

The first full week of Dressember is done! I’ve raised $150 of my $500 goal! The average advocate raises about $100, but by working together we’ve already been able to raise $500K! I’m so thankful to be part of a global community of women making a difference.

Once again, I’m sharing where every item in my wardrobe came from. I don’t just want to raise money to fight exploitation once a year; I want to avoid supporting exploitation with my money every day. That’s why I’ve made a move towards more thrifted clothing, and purchasing a few pieces as possible from companies who are doing the right thing.

[For last week’s review, go here]

[For the “rules” of my personal Dressember Challenge, go here]

This week, you’ll start seeing more repeat items, dresses and otherwise. My wardrobe is pretty small right now, and I’m okay with that. I’ve gotten rid of the things I don’t wear, and I’ve started filling in the gaps with basic items I can wear with everything. That means some items are in very heavy rotation for the time being, like the cardigans I wear a lot in the winter.

Day 1

Dress: Thrifted
Sweater: Bought new (in high school, I think)
Leggings: Thrifted
Shoes: Keen shoes

Day 2

Dress: Lularoe*
Leggings: Bought new**
Boots: Bought new
Scarf: Gift or bought new
Watch: Sprout – made from biodegradable corn resin and eco-friendly cork

Day 3

Dress: Bought new
Sweater: Thrifted
Tights: Bought new
Shoes:  Vegetarian shoes

Day 4

Dress: Yard sale
Sweater: ThredUP
Tights: Bought new
Shoes: Bought new

Day 5

Dress: Thrifted
Sweater: Thrifted
Leggings: Bought new
Shoes: Keen shoes

Day 6

Dress: Thrifted
I bought this dress a few months ago, and I’m pretty in love with it (this photo doesn’t really do the lace credit). I’ve been saving it for December as my “Christmas dress.” This week I wore it for a tea party I helped host.
Shrug: Bought new
Leggings: Thrifted
Shoes: Vegetarian Shoes
Pearl necklace: Thrifted

Day 7

Skirt: Thrifted
Shirt: Hand-me-down
Cardigan: Thrifted
Leggings: Thrifted
Shoes: Keen

*I have mixed feelings about Lularoe. Their website states that they make many of their items in the U.S., and pay fair wages in the international factories they work with, but I can’t find much detail beyond this. [See Dress Well Do Good’s profile on Lularoe] I bought this dress when I was able to get it 50% off through a family member, but I would love to have more information about the company’s practices before I choose to buy from them again.

Dressember Review, Week 1

It has been almost a full week since Dressember started, and I am having a lot of fun while also seeing friends and family become more aware of human trafficking issues. A few have already donated to my campaign, but I’m still a long way from my $500 goal, so I’d greatly appreciate your help!

One of my other purposes behind Dressember was to give a glimpse into my wardrobe and show that it is possible to have fun with fashion without taking part in the exploitation of garment workers.

My wardrobe is definitely a work in progress. Over the last few years, I’ve mainly begun by slowing down on my purchasing of clothes. A lot of the items I’m wearing this month are things I have owned for 3+ years. While they weren’t ethically made, I feel that it’s an ethical choice to continue wearing them as long as I can. Many of the other items, especially my dresses, are purchased from thrift stores. This is usually the most budget-friendly ethical choice, and budget is a big restriction for me at this stage in life. I am making an effort to introduce new, ethically produced items into my wardrobe, trying to focus on things that are difficult to find second-hand (especially shoes), and purchasing items which will last a long time. I’ve also made a few “mistakes,” but I’m trying to do better as I learn better.

Below, I’ve noted whether each item was thrifted, gifted, bought new (2+ years ago unless otherwise noted), or where they were purchased from. Remember that according to my personal Dressember challenge rules, I will only wear one “bought new” dress per week (i.e. I will wear thrifted or ethically made dresses the other days), and I can wear one skirt per week.

Here are my outfits from the first week of Dressember!

Day 1

Dress: Thrifted
Tights: Bought new
Boots: Same
Scarf: Gift
Gloves: I actually have no idea, but I know I didn’t buy them. Either a gift or hand-me-down.

Day 2

Dress: Bought new
Leggings: Bought new
Shoes: Bought new recently from Keen*
Sweater: Thrifted

Day 3

Dress: Thrifted
Tights: Bought new
Boots: Bought new
Scarf: Bought new

Day 4

Top: Thrifted (sweater and tank)
Skirt: Thrifted
Leggings: Thrifted
Shoes: Bought new from Vegetarian Shoes (made ethically in Spain)
Earrings: Locally handmade (bridesmaid gift from a friend’s wedding)

*At the time, I was under the impression that Keen assembled their products in the U.S., and bought them as a moderately ethical and budget-friendly choice. It turns out it is only a subset of their products, mostly hiking boots. I probably won’t buy from them again unless this changes. Live and learn.

So, there it is! I’ll be back next week with another update. In the meantime, follow me on Instagram @andriahjones to keep up with my daily outfits and human trafficking  information.

-Andria

My Dressember challenge

How in the world are we at the end of November!? It’s insane how fast this year has flown by.

As much as I’m perplexed by 2017 quickly approaching, I am pleased to announce that I’ll be taking part in Dressember next month!

Dressember is an annual challenge where women wear dresses for the entire month of December to increase awareness of human trafficking, and raise money for anti-trafficking organizations. To quote their website:

DRESSEMBER IS A COLLABORATIVE MOVEMENT LEVERAGING FASHION AND CREATIVITY TO RESTORE DIGNITY TO ALL WOMEN.

Throughout the month, I’ll be wearing a dress every single day. In addition to the “base” challenge, I’ve decided to challenge myself to wear primarily clothing (and especially dresses) that I’ve ethically sourced. At this stage in my ethical wardrobe journey, and with my current budget, that primarily means clothing that I’ve bought at thrift stores, and a small handful of items that I’ve bought new from ethical companies. I also have a number of dresses that I bought new pre-ethical wardrobe days, but I’ll be wearing them only sparingly. The official Dressember guidelines state that skirts don’t count. However, I have some great thrifted skirts, and so to add some variety to my wardrobe, I will let myself wear a few skirts.

I’ve decided to set a few specific guidelines for myself:

  1. I will only wear a “bought new” (pre-ethical) dress once per week.
  2. I will allow myself to wear a (thrifted) skirt once per week.
  3. When I share outfits, I will say whether each item was “bought new,” “bought used,” or which company I bought it from.

I’m so looking forward to starting on December 1st! I hope you’ll follow over on Instagram @notthosejoneses and @andriahjones! You can donate to my campaign here.

-Andria

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Choosing to hope when life gets rough

Can I be honest, y’all? A few weeks ago, I had a really hard week.

My husband is frustrated with certain aspects of his job. And for one reason or another, his anxiety was running high, which means his OCD symptoms were especially bad.

I am teaching this semester, and some students were taking more energy out of me than I expected. That week I had little left for being patient with my poor husband.

We argued and bickered throughout the week about stupid and some not-so-stupid things.

On Wednesday night, I found myself angry-cleaning, as if I was going to prove something by washing the dishes. I put on some music and threw myself a nice little pity party, making a mental list of all the things my husband does wrong or doesn’t do right. I was feeling pretty self-righteous, because I’m obviously a perfect wife who never does anything wrong, right?

Fortunately for me, Matt hates when one of us is mad more than I do. His humble apologies eventually brought me down off my high horse. The end of the week went slightly more smoothly, but only just.

This is our habit, as humans. It’s easy to find something to be upset about when you’re looking for it. And lately, if I’m honest with myself, I’ve been looking for it.

I hate living in a spiral of negativity, and when I realized what a toll it was taking on me and on others, I decided something had to give.

Instead of looking for those bad things, I’m choosing to reflect on the good.

This isn’t about some vague idea that thinking positively will make your life better or easier. The truth is that life on earth is sometimes hard, and no number of positive quotes on your wall will change that. But God is the one consistent, unchanging good in the world, and so I choose to reflect on his goodness.

I’m choosing to remember how much goodness He showed us last year when my husband lost his job two weeks before Christmas. How He used that time to teach us about sacrifice and to bring us closer together. How the job that sometimes frustrates (as all jobs can) was a gift to us in a time of uncertainty. How God has given me opportunities to grow as a teacher, even before I know it was something I wanted to be good at. How I hoped and prayed for my future husband for years, and how obvious it became after I met Matt that God had the plan in motion all along.

Most importantly, that even when nothing in this world goes right, I have a hope for all eternity in Christ.

This is my comfort in my affliction,
That Your word has revived me and given me life.

Psalm 119:50 [AMP]

It’s not always easy. I’m still far too prone to get caught up in so-called #firstworldproblems, like not being able to find a parking spot in the morning. But my prayer for myself, especially in the coming season of reflection, is that I would be able to move past that temptation to focus on the negative of this minute’s situation, and instead reflect on the goodness of the One who never changes.

My pride problem

I’m not very good at practicing what I preach.

Alternatively, you could say that I started this blog as a means of preaching to myself the message I need to hear most.

The road of self-reliance leads only to discontentment. The only hope worth holding onto is the saving grace of Christ.

I have a pride problem, and it’s only in recent years that I’ve been able to see this sin with any sort of clarity.

Growing up, I was what you call a “good kid.” I didn’t party, or smoke pot, or have sex like other teens I knew. I went to ballet class and did my homework. I attended youth group and volunteered as a tutor. And I reaped the benefits of this “goodness.” I made good grades and earned favor with teachers. I often had adults tell me how mature and responsible I was. My parents generally let me do what I wanted because they trusted me. I knew I wasn’t perfect, but I felt “good.”

It wasn’t until much later in life that I saw my younger self how I really was: I was prideful. I took pride in being good and being thought to be good. I felt self-righteous about how I compared to my peers. I was bad at being religious, but I figured that I wasn’t that bad a person anyway. My pride kept me from seeing my need for Jesus.

Over the years, God has worked on humbling my heart and helping me see the depths of my sin. It’s still a daily struggle not to rely on my own good works, but instead to be wholly dependent on the perfect grace of Christ.

Sometimes, that pride problem still lurks.

Sometimes, I’m able to have all my stuff together. I make freezer meals, get up in the morning without hitting snooze, and pray for everyone I say I’m going to. In those brief periods of time, I take pride in my ability to handle “it all.”

Sometimes, I have none of my things together. I wake up late, don’t open my Bible for days, and we eat cereal for dinner. In those periods of time, I blame everything and everyone but myself, too prideful to admit that I am not perfect.

It’s too easy to take pride in being a “good” Christian. “Good” student. “Good” wife. To forget that, while certain goals and habits are beneficial, they are not necessary hoops I have to jump through.

The truth is: Nothing I do, good or bad, will take me closer to or farther from God. He has already bridged the gap in His Son, and I am saved by Christ’s death on the cross and resurrection.

I wanted to start this blog as a way to share my heart as I learn to live in light of this Good News. But somehow I turned it into another one of those “things” I have to have together in order to meet my own definition of success.

For that reason, I’ve taken a break from writing, long enough for me to miss it again. I’ve decided that, for now at least, I’m only going to write when I have something in particular to say. For me, it’s far more important to keep my heart healthy than to write a post every week.

I hope this post, and other future posts, whatever the topic, encourage you to press more deeply into God’s grace, and to let go of perfectionism and pride.

-Andria

My pride problem

Things I’m Loving Thursday: August 2016

Welcome again to Things I’m Loving Thursday. Here are 4 things I’m really enjoying these days!

My new phone case from French Press Mornings & Casetify

I recently had to get a new phone, and I knew it was the perfect excuse to finally get a case from the French Press Mornings collection. Jenny at FPM designs beautiful scripture prints, and releases new designs with free downloads each week. Several of her designs are also available as phone cases through Casetify. I love that Casetify’s new iPhone cases have an interchangeable backplate, so you can change the design without replacing the whole case (backplates are $15 vs. $40 for a case). The case itself seems sturdy; I’ve already dropped my phone several times without any problems. They offer a $10 voucher if you send unwanted cases back to be recycled.

 

The Bible Project Podcast

Yes, another podcast! The Bible Project‘s intent is to help explain the overall narrative of the Bible as seen through different themes, and to give “birds-eye” views of individual books of the Bible through short, animated videos. The podcast is actually a more detailed conversation between two of the Project’s creators, Jon and Tim, as they work through what each video will be about. If you’ve ever wanted to understand the Bible more broadly, and give context to your personal study, this is a great resource. I’m loving their current series on the wisdom literature.

 

Homemade marshmallow fluff

A few weeks ago, I made homemade, vegan, marshmallow fluff in just a few minutes with the juice leftover from a can of chickpeas. I know, it sounds crazy, but aquafaba (“bean juice”) is magic. Probably thanks to its protein and/or sugar content, it can be whipped up into beautiful meringues or used as an egg substitute in baking. Add some sweetener, vanilla, and cocoa (optional), and you have simple, easy marshmallow fluff. It was a Friday night, so we ate ours straight from a bowl, and it was divine. Recipe from Chocolate Covered Katie both with and without cocoa.

 

Beauty Counter Lip Sheer

I discovered Beauty Counter recently, and love that they strive for sustainability in their cosmetics. Many of their products are vegan, and it’s easy to find a list of which ones are in their FAQ. They also make their products in the U.S. and Italy.

I don’t wear much makeup on a daily basis, but I do like to have a good tube of lip color at all times. I ordered their lip sheer in Twig recently, and I am in love. It has a slight vanilla scent to it, feels creamy good on your lips (it contains jojoba extracts), and depending on how heavy you apply, gives light to medium color that is great for everyday. I will probably order a different color whenever my current “date night” lipstick wears out.

 

So, that’s it! 4 great things I’m loving lately. How about you?

Staying grounded in the gospel during election season

Those of us in the U.S. can agree that it has been a rough election year so far (at least there is one thing we can all agree on, right?). There is so much going on in our country and around the world; it’s hard to know how to feel about all of it. Making matters worse, everyone is trying to tell us what we should think and what opinions we should have and how we should vote. If you’re like me, you might be overwhelmed by it all, wanting to be an engaged, informed citizen, but wondering how to do that in a gospel-centered way.

My husband, Matt, and I tend towards opposite reactions to this kind of turmoil. Matt has a degree in history, and likes to stay on top of current events. He watches and reads the news frequently, and tends to be very emotionally invested in whatever is going on. He has very strong opinions. I, on the other hand, find that I am easily overwhelmed by the information and emotions of a situation. I dislike conflict by nature, so I get lost in opposing viewpoints, and find it difficult to decide where I stand. As a result, I have generally disengaged from current events as much as possible, and have sometimes called myself “apolitical.”

In light of this year, I have been feeling especially convicted about my approach to engaging with the world (or lack thereof). As Christ followers, I feel we are absolutely called to participate in our culture’s conversations in a redemptive way. After talking with Matt one morning about this, Jess Connolly posted this on Instagram, and I loved the phrase she used to describe her husband’s style of engaging with people: “to care without carrying.”

To care about the world because we know that God cares about the world, without carrying the world’s burdens because we know our God is sovereign. To be engaged in that public dialogue without worrying because we know our hope is not found there.

My goal is that  today’s post would encourage you with the hope we do have in Christ, and to push us to think about how to engage with the world and with politics with the gospel in mind. These are a few things I am attempting to meditate on throughout this season.

 

Perspective

God is in control

The Bible as a whole tells the story of a God who is sovereign over all things. One of my favorite examples is the story of Joseph  at the end of Genesis. Joseph’s brothers are jealous of him, and so they sell him into slavery in Egypt. But Joseph remains faithful to his God, and he is eventually put in charge of all of Egypt, the pharaoh’s most trusted servant. His leadership enables his brothers, with many other people, to come to Egypt to buy grain in the midst of a fierce famine. When he finally reveals himself to his brothers, and forgives them for their sin against him, it is not because of anything they have done, but because he recognizes the sovereignty of God:

You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good, to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.
Genesis 50:20

We can likewise rest and trust in God’s good plan.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28

This is not a promise that we will have easy lives, but rather that we have Jesus and the Holy Spirit in all things, enabling us to live according to God’s will.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
John 16:33

Notice that Jesus says we will have troubles in this world, immediately after saying that we can have peace. In Him, the two are not mutually exclusive!

 

 Our hope is not of this world

But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.
Philippians 3:20-21

Ultimately, no matter what happens in the world, in politics, in our own lives, we know that it is all temporary. That’s true when we are suffering and when we are rejoicing. This knowledge can help us stay grounded in Christ when things are going well (not putting our hope and joy in these things), and when they aren’t.

 

Our calling

“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
Matthew 22:37-40

It’s important to remember before, during, and after getting involved in politics that our ultimate calling as believers is to love God and love others. Politics only matter inasmuch as they help us do those two things. Love for God and people should be the lens through which we view any conversation, Facebook post, or vote.

 

Inward unity

 I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought.
1 Corinthians 1:10

This passage speaks specifically about believers who were claiming allegiance with one church leader or another, but we know from the rest of Paul’s letter that the Corinthians had a hard time with unity in general. In chapter 6, he fusses at them for taking lawsuits against each other before the court. Not only are they having these problems, but they are airing their dirty laundry in front of non-believers! He later reminds them, in chapter 12, that they are all individual members of one body. Paul’s hope is that others may be saved, and he knows that the church’s witness is undermined by both private and public disunity. I think we can apply those principles today, when political discourse becomes an excuse to point fingers at “other” Christians. I don’t believe it is necessary for every Christian to agree on a particular party or candidate, but I do think we should be careful in the way we speak to each other about these secondary things (see above).

By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
John 13:35

 

Outward love

You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.
Matthew 5:43-45

This is a popular verse, often pulled by Christians and non-believers alike in contexts exactly like this post. But, it’s not a very popular verse to practice. It’s difficult to pray for people like members of ISIS, who are literally murdering Christians and others who don’t agree with their ideology. It’s also difficult to pray for the friend who is always sharing anti-Christian posts on Facebook. However, Jesus prayed for his persecutors with his dying breath, saying “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). How might our perspective on the world change if we truly prayed for and recognized our “enemies” as broken people in need of God’s grace?

Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.
Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human authority: whether to the emperor, as the supreme authority, or to governors, who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and to commend those who do right. For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish people. Live as free people, but do not use your freedom as a cover-up for evil; live as God’s slaves. Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.
1 Peter 2:12-17

1 Peter is a letter written to a group of believers who were living as exiles. In the comfort of a country like the United States, we can forget that we are also in exile, waiting for a future home, and get angry when we are reminded of this reality because this world doesn’t welcome us in every way. But notice that Peter doesn’t call the Christians he is addressing to get angry and spend their time trying to make the rest of their country look more “Christian.” Instead, he calls them to live humble, good lives and to “honor the emperor.” I think he recognizes this as one of the best ways we can witness to the world (compare 1 Peter 3:1-2, addressing wives, especially of unbelieving husbands). We are free people, but we can use that freedom to live radical lives that point others toward Christ. I don’t have specific recommendations about what this looks like today; it most likely looks a little different in a modern democracy where we do have some say in how our country runs. Regardless, I think we should use this mindset as a filter for our words and actions around political matters.

I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.
1 Timothy 2:1-4

Going a step further, Paul calls us here to pray for “all those in authority.” Keep in mind that the early church was often persecuted by political and religious leaders, so he likely doesn’t take this statement lightly. Even when the president or your mayor says or does something you don’t agree with, what would it look like to pray for them, for their families, for their salvation?

It’s my hope that we, the Church, can be defined by this sort of revolutionary love, not because we’ve “given in” to the world’s swaying, but because we are so confident in who we are in Christ.

 

Do you feel as overwhelmed by this election season as I do? How do you remind yourself that our hope is in the gospel and not in this world?

Saying grounded in the gospel during election season